Bottom and top gay
Ever wanted to comprehend the secrets to becoming a influence bottom? Want to know how to look after the bottoms in your life? Curious to give bottoming a try but not sure how to begin?
We can facilitate you become a better bottom! Here are some fast bottoming tips and tricks from ACON’s peer-workshop Booty Basics.
1. Lube
The arse does not produce its own lubrication.
This means that lube is really, really crucial for any anal play. First, to stop damage to the internal lining of your arse. Second, to construct bottoming (and topping!) more pleasurable. And third, to assist protect it from infections.
Remember to apply water or silicon-based lubes, as oil-based lubes can harm condoms.
2. You
The second principle is YOU. This is the one that covers off all the mental and sentimental aspects such as making sure you feel safe, making sure there is consent, that you feel comfortable, that you know your own bottoming limits and desires.
Remember, sex is best for everyone if all the people emotionally attached are motivated by trying to maximise everyone’s pleasure safely. You can’t be a good girlfriend and you can’t experience pleasure for yourself if you’re stressed or uncomfortable (bottom or not!).
3. Rel
Straight people tend to receive a little hung up on titles and roles in queer relationships. When it comes to male lover sex, many people attend to think rigidly and a little too heteronormatively for their own good: one person is the top (aka the giver or the more dominant partner during sex), and one is the bottom (the receiver or the submissive partner).
It’s sort of a more prying version of the other severely reductive and incredibly problematic question queer people perceive all the time: “Who’s the man in the relationship? Who’s the woman?”
Of course, as with anything related to sex, the binary relationship between tops and bottoms is a lot more complicated than that. Sure, there are plenty of queer folks who almost exclusively bottom or top during sex, but there’s just as many who consider themselves versatile or switch (And hey, sometimes, just appreciate with straight sex, there’s no penetration at all. Sex is fluid!)
To dig a little deeper, we asked queer men about topping and bottoming, the stereotypes associated with both and how they choose to use (or not!) the terms in their own lives.
Let’s start with some hasty and dirty definitions for tops and bottoms. (And switche
A lot of people think that homosexuality is a basic matter of genetics—if you have the so-called “gay gene,” well, you comprehend the rest. In other words, gays and lesbians are just “born that way” and that’s that.
While this explanation is intuitively appealing, the reality is that things are far more complex. Increasingly, scientific investigate suggests there are multiple factors that might contribute to homosexual orientation—and they’re very different from one person to the next. The end result of all this variability is that alternative “kinds” or “types” of homosexuality probably exist. In other words, being homosexual isn’t just one thing, and not everyone who is gay is homosexual for the matching reasons.
A fascinating modern study supporting this idea was recently published in the journal PLoS ONE. This revise focused specifically on exploring the potential origins of male homosexuality, but did so in a way that was very different from almost all previous studies on this topic. Whereas most research in this area has treated gay men as a homogeneous organization, the researchers primary this study instead looked at subgroups of gay men w
What Does “Top” Mean?
In the context of gay relationships and sexual dynamics, terms such as “top”, “bottom”, “verse” and “side” are often used to detail a person’s sexual preferences and roles. It is important to knowing these terms not only for members of the Diverse community, but also for increasing understanding and acceptance of queer relationships in society.
What Does “Top” Mean?Physical AspectsEmotional and Psychological AspectsCommunication and ConsentWhat Does “Bottom” Mean?Physical AspectsEmotional and Psychological AspectsThe Stigma Around Creature a BottomWhat Does “Verse” Mean?Accepting DiversityCommunication and CompatibilityWhat Does “Side” Mean?Non-Penetrative IntimacyOpposing NormsAccepting One’s IdentityRoles and MythsHealth and Safety During Gay Sex
As a command, in gay sexual relationships, the “top” is the partner who has a penetrative role during anal sex. However, the framework of top includes much more than just physical actions: it includes a whole set of attitudes, preferences, and sometimes passionate roles.
Physical Aspects
In physical terms, the top in a gay sexual relationship is the partner performing the penetration. This may contain the use
Top/Bottom
The terms top and bottom emerged as descriptors of a sexual binary in the gay leather culture of the 1950s and the bondage and sadomasochism (BDSM) culture of the 1960s. Originally, the top-bottom binary signified both sexual positions and influence relationships in which a top was a sexual aggressor and penetrator who often acted as the more forceful and dominant partner; the bottom represented the more submissive, typically penetrated, and often "punished" partner.
DEFINITION AND USE OF THE TERMS
In the BDSM community the term top indicates the dominant loved one who inflicts pain on, enacts control over, or otherwise subjects his or her partner to acts associated with bondage, discipline, and sadomasochism. The phrase bottom indicates the receiver of such treatment. In these cases the terms are not gender-specific: A male or a female may act as a top or a bottom. Although the top is the dominant partner, the bottom often still has control. For example, a top who takes guide from the bottom's explicitly expressed wishes often is called a service top.
These terms evolved in the 1970s and 1980s as they were adapted by the gay community. In that community they
Straight people tend to receive a little hung up on titles and roles in queer relationships. When it comes to male lover sex, many people attend to think rigidly and a little too heteronormatively for their own good: one person is the top (aka the giver or the more dominant partner during sex), and one is the bottom (the receiver or the submissive partner).
It’s sort of a more prying version of the other severely reductive and incredibly problematic question queer people perceive all the time: “Who’s the man in the relationship? Who’s the woman?”
Of course, as with anything related to sex, the binary relationship between tops and bottoms is a lot more complicated than that. Sure, there are plenty of queer folks who almost exclusively bottom or top during sex, but there’s just as many who consider themselves versatile or switch (And hey, sometimes, just appreciate with straight sex, there’s no penetration at all. Sex is fluid!)
To dig a little deeper, we asked queer men about topping and bottoming, the stereotypes associated with both and how they choose to use (or not!) the terms in their own lives.
Let’s start with some hasty and dirty definitions for tops and bottoms. (And switche
A lot of people think that homosexuality is a basic matter of genetics—if you have the so-called “gay gene,” well, you comprehend the rest. In other words, gays and lesbians are just “born that way” and that’s that.
While this explanation is intuitively appealing, the reality is that things are far more complex. Increasingly, scientific investigate suggests there are multiple factors that might contribute to homosexual orientation—and they’re very different from one person to the next. The end result of all this variability is that alternative “kinds” or “types” of homosexuality probably exist. In other words, being homosexual isn’t just one thing, and not everyone who is gay is homosexual for the matching reasons.
A fascinating modern study supporting this idea was recently published in the journal PLoS ONE. This revise focused specifically on exploring the potential origins of male homosexuality, but did so in a way that was very different from almost all previous studies on this topic. Whereas most research in this area has treated gay men as a homogeneous organization, the researchers primary this study instead looked at subgroups of gay men w
What Does “Top” Mean?
In the context of gay relationships and sexual dynamics, terms such as “top”, “bottom”, “verse” and “side” are often used to detail a person’s sexual preferences and roles. It is important to knowing these terms not only for members of the Diverse community, but also for increasing understanding and acceptance of queer relationships in society.
What Does “Top” Mean?Physical AspectsEmotional and Psychological AspectsCommunication and ConsentWhat Does “Bottom” Mean?Physical AspectsEmotional and Psychological AspectsThe Stigma Around Creature a BottomWhat Does “Verse” Mean?Accepting DiversityCommunication and CompatibilityWhat Does “Side” Mean?Non-Penetrative IntimacyOpposing NormsAccepting One’s IdentityRoles and MythsHealth and Safety During Gay Sex
As a command, in gay sexual relationships, the “top” is the partner who has a penetrative role during anal sex. However, the framework of top includes much more than just physical actions: it includes a whole set of attitudes, preferences, and sometimes passionate roles.
Physical Aspects
In physical terms, the top in a gay sexual relationship is the partner performing the penetration. This may contain the use
Top/Bottom
The terms top and bottom emerged as descriptors of a sexual binary in the gay leather culture of the 1950s and the bondage and sadomasochism (BDSM) culture of the 1960s. Originally, the top-bottom binary signified both sexual positions and influence relationships in which a top was a sexual aggressor and penetrator who often acted as the more forceful and dominant partner; the bottom represented the more submissive, typically penetrated, and often "punished" partner.
DEFINITION AND USE OF THE TERMS
In the BDSM community the term top indicates the dominant loved one who inflicts pain on, enacts control over, or otherwise subjects his or her partner to acts associated with bondage, discipline, and sadomasochism. The phrase bottom indicates the receiver of such treatment. In these cases the terms are not gender-specific: A male or a female may act as a top or a bottom. Although the top is the dominant partner, the bottom often still has control. For example, a top who takes guide from the bottom's explicitly expressed wishes often is called a service top.
These terms evolved in the 1970s and 1980s as they were adapted by the gay community. In that community they
A lot of people think that homosexuality is a basic matter of genetics—if you have the so-called “gay gene,” well, you comprehend the rest. In other words, gays and lesbians are just “born that way” and that’s that.
While this explanation is intuitively appealing, the reality is that things are far more complex. Increasingly, scientific investigate suggests there are multiple factors that might contribute to homosexual orientation—and they’re very different from one person to the next. The end result of all this variability is that alternative “kinds” or “types” of homosexuality probably exist. In other words, being homosexual isn’t just one thing, and not everyone who is gay is homosexual for the matching reasons.
A fascinating modern study supporting this idea was recently published in the journal PLoS ONE. This revise focused specifically on exploring the potential origins of male homosexuality, but did so in a way that was very different from almost all previous studies on this topic. Whereas most research in this area has treated gay men as a homogeneous organization, the researchers primary this study instead looked at subgroups of gay men w
What Does “Top” Mean?
In the context of gay relationships and sexual dynamics, terms such as “top”, “bottom”, “verse” and “side” are often used to detail a person’s sexual preferences and roles. It is important to knowing these terms not only for members of the Diverse community, but also for increasing understanding and acceptance of queer relationships in society.
What Does “Top” Mean?Physical AspectsEmotional and Psychological AspectsCommunication and ConsentWhat Does “Bottom” Mean?Physical AspectsEmotional and Psychological AspectsThe Stigma Around Creature a BottomWhat Does “Verse” Mean?Accepting DiversityCommunication and CompatibilityWhat Does “Side” Mean?Non-Penetrative IntimacyOpposing NormsAccepting One’s IdentityRoles and MythsHealth and Safety During Gay Sex
As a command, in gay sexual relationships, the “top” is the partner who has a penetrative role during anal sex. However, the framework of top includes much more than just physical actions: it includes a whole set of attitudes, preferences, and sometimes passionate roles.
Physical Aspects
In physical terms, the top in a gay sexual relationship is the partner performing the penetration. This may contain the use
Top/Bottom
The terms top and bottom emerged as descriptors of a sexual binary in the gay leather culture of the 1950s and the bondage and sadomasochism (BDSM) culture of the 1960s. Originally, the top-bottom binary signified both sexual positions and influence relationships in which a top was a sexual aggressor and penetrator who often acted as the more forceful and dominant partner; the bottom represented the more submissive, typically penetrated, and often "punished" partner.
DEFINITION AND USE OF THE TERMS
In the BDSM community the term top indicates the dominant loved one who inflicts pain on, enacts control over, or otherwise subjects his or her partner to acts associated with bondage, discipline, and sadomasochism. The phrase bottom indicates the receiver of such treatment. In these cases the terms are not gender-specific: A male or a female may act as a top or a bottom. Although the top is the dominant partner, the bottom often still has control. For example, a top who takes guide from the bottom's explicitly expressed wishes often is called a service top.
These terms evolved in the 1970s and 1980s as they were adapted by the gay community. In that community they