Parents hate gays and wont let me cut my hair
A while back, we posted here seemingly "normal" parenting trends that are actually toxic. In the comments, many readers from the BuzzFeed Community shared more toxic parenting methods that will hold you raising your eyebrows.
Here are some that stood out the most:
1.Hitting or spanking your kids as a build of discipline.
2.Assigning a scapegoat or "golden child" among your children.
3.Telling your youngster not to cry.
4.Gossiping about your children with other parents.
5.Telling your kids they're exhausting.
6.Calling your kids derogative names.
7.Believing your kids don't include a right to privacy.
8.Accusing your kid of faking an illness or pain.
9.Forbidding or discouraging your child from dating.
10.Commenting on your child's weight.
11.Not respecting your child's boundaries.
12.Brushing off your child's interests, feelings, and struggles as "just a phase" or "just for attention."
13.Adding attention to your kid's bodily changes.
14.Disregarding any parental wrongdoings as simply being blamed.
15.Treating things like race and being LGBTQ like forbidden subjects.
16.Never saying, "I affection you."
17.Not allowing your kids to be
my parents hate my long hair
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Posted: April 14 2003 at 5:16pm Hey everyone, I am a 15-year old male and I need some serious serve with keeping long hair, but it's not about the speed of maturation or what people reflect of it; I'm not really worried about it at all... Well here's the story
I've had prolonged hair almost down to my shoulders since 7th grade, but I sever it WAY shorter a few months ago (although it is almost eye-length now) and my parents don't want me to have long hair, EVER again. Me and my dad have been arguing about it for a long time. He wants it short, clean, and nothing below my eyebrows, which I can't approve on. I tried all sorts of deals, love I promised to retain my grades up, or never to get into trouble. I even threatend to intentionally fail university if he didn't enable me grow it prolonged, but he said he would make me shave it all off, and I would probably just cold feet before even doing it. His reasons for not letting me have long hair is because he says it is feminin My father was gay. He was born in 1918. In my 20s, he started telling me stories about his early being. He was out in the 1930s at a time when it wasn’t common. He had dreams that most would not believe he dared to dream. The problem with my dad telling me all of this was that he was still married to my mother.
In 1939, at a party in the Hollywood Hills with gay filmmakers and musicians, he was arrested. Police officers handcuffed the men, herded them into a van, and took them to jail. The following morning, he appeared before a judge for sentencing. Because the arresting officer couldn’t swear that he saw him touching his dance partner, he was released.
Then he was caught up in an illegal sting operation in Pasadena that targeted queer men. They were extorted by the police for cash payments in come back for conditional release. His dreams of being a schoolteacher and living with his boyfriend were destroyed.
As World War II loomed, he attempted to enlist in the U.S. Navy, but he was rejected when his record revealed that he was queer . The Army eventually recognized him, perhaps because war was imminent and able-bodied men, even gay ones, were needed.
Before my father shipped
Living with a Broken Heart: Are You Estranged from Your Child?
“You can stay with a broken heart, and you can cease with one, but it’s terrible to have to do both.”
–Quote from an estranged parent
I’ve witnessed and possess been affected by a parent-child relationship dissolving within my own family. There have also been many stories shared with our parent coaching team by parents going through either complete estrangement from a child, or dealing with a child who is distancing themselves from the family. If you’re in this situation now, whether or not you were aware of or suspected problems in the partnership, when cut off you were probably faced with a tremendous amount of pain, shame, and guilt. Unfortunately, like many other parenting scenarios, parents are often under fierce scrutiny and are the target of judgment by the general public when this happens. Let’s be honest, some people might assume that parental estrangement has happened as a result of neglect or abuse by the parent. There is no denying that this accounts for some of these situations, but I know from my control experiences that it doesn’t cover all of them.
Why would an adult youth sever ties with
“You want to shove those words support in and set the lid on. But you can’t. Your child is gay. This goes against everything you’ve been taught. It was not what you had in mind, and you instantly wonder where you went wrong.”
When you become a parent, you understand to expect the unexpected. But for many Christian parents, nothing can plan them to perceive that their beloved child is queer . This is the child you acquire cradled, spoon fed mashed bananas, and dreamed a charming future for. How could this be? What will the church say? What will your friends say? What does the future hold? You can’t even get your chief around this.
If you are a Christian parent, family member or friend to whom your loved one has approach out as male lover or lesbian, then this is for you.
I invite you to sit down, relax, maybe procure a cup of tea, and soak in what I’m about to reveal you. My dream is to manual you as we walk for a bit through this maze of confusion, to help you find your way to wholeness. In many Christian circles, this is not good news, and you may commence to spiral into reflection and self-searching. We’ll get to that. But at the bottom of it all, this is not about you. Most parents’ first mistake is to mak
my parents hate my long hair
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