Can a straight guy and gay guy be friends

Content Note: mention of homophobia

It’s my first week at Cambridge and I am walking to a lecture with the other people from my course at my college. We make the casual, tedious small talk of freshers’ week. Except, I contain no idea what they’re talking about. I attempt to ask, but I am met with smirks, half-explanations and at worst I am ignored. Any attempt to change the conversation, about an musician I’ve never listened to, is likewise ignored. I soon learn to express happiness along with the others, smirk and snort as they do. I close up talking to the only girl of the group. We have nothing in common except she is equally as bored with the conversation as I am.

Now, this event would not have irritated me much, except that it is part of a trend that I have been experiencing my entire life. Being excluded by straight men is not unfamiliar territory for me - by this point it’s to be expected. I recall organism called gay in the playground as early as 9; at age 13, a boy I considered a good friend suddenly started mocking my visible effeminacy; and just this year a friend standing next to me used the word “gay” to describe his broken TV. 

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On a recent episode of Male Up, a gay bloke, Sam, wants to construct more straight male friends. Aymann Ismail tries to find out what’s behind that mindset with the help of Alex De Luca, founder of Gaybros, a subreddit for same-sex attracted men. This transcript of their conversation has been condensed and edited for clarity.

Aymann Ismail: What is it exactly that you expect to get out of a straight male friendship that you wouldn’t otherwise get from someone else, like maybe a gay friend?

Sam: I assess we find ourselves more comfortable with people who are similar to us, so having a friendship with a gay human, I am going to automatically have conversations that are different than a friendship with a direct man. In friendships with gay men, oftentimes our conversatio

hi, i wanted to start that I never  expect my self  looking for this specific theme.  but I view that  maybe can help you and me.

I have a similar situation with my relationship. My boyfriends gay ally is inLove with him and he doesn’t realize that.  there is so many things that make me be aware that.

1 they watch each other once a week to drink in a bar, when they do and receive drunk, my boyfriends gay friend starts complementing him  in front of me , like his handsome, touching his arm ( in a way that makes me uncomfortable), looking him with this in admire eyes. start making inappropriate joke

2 he had a picture of a naked guy that looks like my partner and even he shows the pictures to everybody. and he start saying  DOESNT HE Glance LIKE HIM???

3  he told my partner that he heard that i was dating one of his friends  a couple of times( guy that I don’t even know). obviously lies.. don’t know what was exactly his intention.

4 he invited my boyfriend first  to an island  and a week after he mentioned and then he invited me .. ( last minute) obiously my boyfriend didn’t go.

5  he always pays for everything, dinner, uber,  all the drink in the bar ( mos

I recently finished reading Dr. Robert Garfield’s terrific new guide, Breaking the Male Code: Unlocking the Power of Friendship, and last week participated in a joint interview with him by Dr. Dan Gottlieb on WHYY (National Widespread Radio) in Philadelphia. This all got me thinking about my own friendships and those of my gay male clients. The bonds between gay men and straight women have been written about and featured in popular media (i.e. Sex in the City, Will and Grace), though a lot less has been said about how queer and straight men recognize and negotiate the distinct challenges, complications, and rewards of their friendships.

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According to Garfield, among the many obstacles to male-male platonic intimacy, terror of homosexuality looms large. Straight men fret that if they get too close, others will see them as gay; which in their minds means feminine (horrors!), feeble, and perverted. Perhaps even scarier is that their passionate connections will somehow morph into sexual attraction. Interestingly, in the U.S., before there was such a thing as a gay self, some straight men would, with petite shame, engage in sexual contact with other men (usually allow

By Karen Blair, Ph.D., and Trent University Students Laura Orchard and Bre O'Handley

“We fell into each other’s arms because of our similarities in our career and because of our age and because we like the same sort of things.” This quote could quite likely be the beginning of a wonderful romance story, but instead, it is a quote about friendship delivered toThe Huffington Post by Sir Ian McKellen about his decade’s long friendship with Sir Patrick Stewart.

The two men first came to know each other well on the fix of the first X-Men film in 1999, and although the duo played adversaries on the silver screen, offscreen, they were developing a close friendship. On the set, the two men had adjoining trailers, where they spent more time getting to know each other than in front of the camera. By the complete of filming, they had discovered how much they had in common, and to this day, they share one of Hollywood’s most well-known friendships.

Both actors are often photographed together doing mundane things, such as walking a boardwalk while deep in conversation. Perhaps one of the reasons their friendship has drawn so much widespread attention is the duality of their sexual identitie